Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

My Journal - Week 25 (10Feb10)

Is it working?

Yesterday Hunter had an unscheduled visit from one of our superheros E.I. consultant, Jenn.  We had some discussions about Hunter's recent eating dilema.  It seems that every time Hunter has something solid to eat, within an hour he is crying from some sort of pain.  At first, we thought it was gas pains, since Hunter refuses to burp after any meal.  We gave him baby Ovol (a gas reliever) and we tried the gripe water repeatedly.  Relief was insight but it was only temporary.
I was about to give up the solids for a while, but Jenn reminded me of something that made me specifically start Hunter on solids at 5 months of age.  After speaking with our family doctor, we learned that the new standards made by the Canadian Pedeatric Association suggest not starting a baby on solids until after 6 months of age in order to avoid food allergies.  However, our doctor told us: because of this, many parents are discovering that later on, their baby wont eat or are having food aversions.  Jenn also confirmed this.  I knew about this problem from my own reading and research and so I took my doctors advice and decided to start when I felt Hunter was ready.  My doctor told me that he always believed the adage:  Mom's know best.  Unfortunately, despite my attempts to steer Hunter away from any possiblity of future food aversions, he is having some sort of reaction or difficulty with baby food.  It would seem that no matter what I fed him, he would have pain of some sort.  I went back to the internet to see if I could find anything on the subject, and many mom's suggested going back to exclusive breast or bottle feeding.  This might stop the problem, but it would only create another.  I needed another answer.  Jenn to the rescue.  "Try organic first" she suggested.  I went out immediately after and bought a variety of organic baby foods, and a box of Oatmeal cereal (as suggested by Jenn and the Internet) instead of rice cereal.
Armed with the new baby food, I tested it out on Hunter at 8 pm and I waited for the worst.  9 pm came, and bath time was a breeze (except for the fact that I now get my own personal shower during the event....).  Bed time came and Hunter fell asleep without complaint.  Could this be possible?  Hunter needed Organic food?  I am hoping that I am not jinxing my experience and that tonight will be a repeat performance. I will report back if there are any changes.

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