Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
Author: Sandi Graham-McWade, Copyright

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Wednesday, March 3, 2010

My Journal - Week 28 (03Mar10)

We have success!

I am happy to update that the ready made Similac formula was a hit.  I guess Hunter just doesn't like the powdered stuff, and as I said before, I don't blame him.  It tastes horrible and has a terrible after taste.  The ready made one does not.

This will certainly be easier, no mixing.  But the price of ease is not cheap.  I know that the ready made formula are more expensive.  I wish I had access to purchase the cases from the hospital.  They are perfect four ounce bottles. I called the hospital and they tell me the cases are not for sale, but that I can call Similac to see if they can provide it.  I ended up calling Toronto Sick Kids specialty food shop and they tell me they sell a ready made Similac formula in the can.  So, it does exists - and I am told it is $3.99 per can.  Ouch.  Oh well, if it works, it works.  This is the price we pay for success.

Here are two pictures of our success with the formula.

[It's yummy Mommy!]

[I want to hold the bottle myself!]

I hope that this works out, and we are able to get him on bottles during the day.  Thanks to those who made the suggestions - obviously it worked!

1 comment:

  1. Hi Sandi

    Avoid giving Hunter formulae. Breast milk is best. I breastfed Joachim for 1 year and 3 months when I had no choice to wean him because i was pregnant with michaela. I breast fed Michaela for 9 months cause she stopped and did not want it any more. Those who are for breast feeding will tell you that the more you breast feed is better for the child. The milk produced by a mother's breast changes to suit the nutritional needs of the child and remember it is free and easily available. You the mother has to ensure that you are eating a healthy diet and drinking lots of fluids. The more you breatfeed the more you will produce. In fact I was a working mom and at work I was fortunate to have the privacy to express my breast milk and refrigerate and i always had a good supply. If memory serves me once a child turn one year old he can start normal milk that is the 3%. Formulas are there for those who don't want to breast feed or have this excuse that they are not producing enough milk. you are a stay at home mom so I encourage you to continue to breastfeed and check out if there is a breastfeeding group in your area for advice and guidance especially if you feel that hunter's teeth may hurt your nipples. If you get into the habit of expressing milk it comes naturally and the more you express you also get more and you can continue to nurse at night time. So please save your self the money and keep on breastfeeding. Call me Luella


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