Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Monday, July 19, 2010

My Journal - Week 48 (19Jul10)

Eureka!  We now have leak prevention!

After the many months of trying to figure out what to do in terms of Hunter's nightly leakage problems... I have found the answer.  I am hopeful that this will work, and I am going to try it out tonight.  I found (after searching high and low) that no stores have the traditional plastic pants that go over diapers.  And if you ask places where you would think that would have them, they look at you kind of funny and say, "what are those?"  I guess the people I asked were not children of the seventies....  Oh lord, I am dating myself again.  Anyway, there are diaper pants, they just don't call them that anylonger.  The new thing (and these are popular) are diaper wraps, that are traditionally used for cloth diapers, which are the new rave in this ecological crunch to save our planet.  These diaper wraps are not made of plastic (too hot for baby) these are nylon waterproof polyurethane wraps that are supposed to contain leakage.  I am very happy and hopeful.  I will of course be posting the outcome.  I am also posting a picture of these wraps with a link to Babies R Us so that no one will have to struggle to find these like I did.  And honestly, I am sick and tired of washing sheets every day because of leaks....

Click on Diaper Wrap image to see wraps.

They do have a ton of neat colours and designs, so if plain white is not your idea of cute, then you can have helicopters and aeroplanes!

And just for fun, I caught Hunter sitting under his Jumperoo, playing.  When I looked over at him, from my angle it looked like he was wearing his Jumperoo as a hat!  I just had to take the picture (as you know, any reason to snap snap snap...) and post it for you to enjoy!

[Do you like my new hat?  It's kind of big for me but I still like it!]

PS - 27 days to go before Hunter's first Birthday!!!

1 comment:

  1. Hi! I found your blog from the BC post - love it! Hunter is darling, with or without the hat!! What does the message mean that your blog design will disappear July 23rd...surely not the whole blog?


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