Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Friday, January 1, 2010

My Journal - Week 19 (01Jan10)


"Happy New Year!"

This is Hunter's first 'New Years', kind of quiet - but spent with family.  It's really very neat when you think about it, all these firsts, but even more ironic is the fact that life is all about firsts.  I personally did not make any new years resolutions, but I always think to myself - I would like to live a life worth living.  I think that those are words everyone should live by, and also to remember how good my life is, despite any hardships I think I may be facing.


[Hunter all smiles for New Years!]


[A kiss for Mommy 5 minutes after midnight]


[Dancing with and kissing Mommy during the countdown]

I hope that everyone enjoyed 2009, for me there were several wonderful events.  (As I am half Chinese I think it is important to note that this year was the year of the OX and coincidentally I happen to also be an OX.  Being that it was "my" year, it stands to reason why it was such a good year for me.) The first and most significant event to me was Hunter's birth - and how wonderful that my Son and I will now share the same sign.  Also just as significant was my wedding day.  25th of July 2009, a wonderful day that I will never forget.  (I am truly blessed that I have such a wonderful husband who is my soul-mate and partner in life.)  In addition my one cousin got married and my other cousin got engaged.  I learned that two of my other cousins were pregnant, and one other had a baby girl in June - so Hunter will have lots of cousins around the same age to spend time playing and growing up with.  I was also lucky enough to have made a new girl friend who is exactly like me.  She is like the sister I never had, and has been completely invaluable when it comes to experiences that we laugh, share and talk about.  Now that's a best friend.  Thanks Hun, for all the past, present and future advice for Hunter and also for me.  I hope I have been to you, a fraction of how good you are to me.

Well 2010, you have large boots to fill but I am sure that each event will be memorable and remarkable.  I hope that I am starting off well by getting an article I wrote published.  The article is actually from the beginning part of my book that I am writing, and its debut is supposed to be right about now.  I will update everyone when I find out more.  Keep your eyes peeled, as it is hopefully going to be in our local newspapers.

And to keep in the spirit, I have changed the look of my blog, (yes again) to browns and blues.  So I hope that everyone enjoys the new look - feel free to leave a comment after the post below.  (I am always trying to keep it fresh, so make sure you keep looking and visiting!) - HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

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