Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
Author: Sandi Graham-McWade, Copyright

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Sunday, June 20, 2010

My Journal - Week 44 (20Jun10)

The grass isn't always greener on the other side....

For Father's Day today, we decided to go to Rotary Park for a fun filled day of sunshine, amusement and food.  It was a great afternoon, and plenty of fun for everyone.  When we got home, we were not only filled with fun and food, but also the "sunshine".  We definitely all needed a bath.  In my infinite wisdom, I figured I could take Hunter into the shower.  A one stop clean up shop.  He loves bathes so why not try the shower?  Well, thinking to my self, we have used the shower massager in the spare bedroom bathroom while Hunter was in the tub on a previous occasion, it shouldn't be too much different - right?  Wrong.  What I failed to realize was that there is an echo in a shower stall....  I suppose if I had of showered him in a regular bathtub shower, he would have been fine.  Once we got into the shower stall, he was just fine for about the first few minutes.  After that, I think the echo in the shower stall scared him.  The tears stared and I had to create an Olympic event of washing and rinsing the baby.  Not fun I tell you.  I called for Daddy to grab Hunter after he was washed and rinsed, and take him out and dry him off.  Once outside of the shower stall, he was a happy guy all over again.  But when Daddy brought him back to see me inside the shower, in the wisdom of thinking, "See?  Mommy's okay in there...." a big pout and quivering bottom lip started all over again.  It took a few minutes of reassurance that Mommy was just fine in there.  The "echo monster" wasn't going to get us.

Back to baby tub for baths - at least for now.

On the Publishing front....
My next book, "I Have Down syndrome, What Does That Mean?" has been submitted to the publisher and is in the production stage.  I am so very happy that this book will be available very soon.  I am told, once the layouts are approved and my proof is approved by me, the printing time should be about three weeks.  How wonderful is that?  I anticipate my book's expected date of release by the end of July.
I will be posting an update in my Sandi's Publications page with the description and summary of this book.  When it is further along, I will be posting the site that it will be available to order from.  If anyone is interested in the meantime and would like to order the book, please do not hesitate to contact me directly.  My contact information can be found through Blogger here under my profile, or you can email me directly at:  tkd73@sympatico.ca

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