Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
Author: Sandi Graham-McWade, Copyright

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Friday, June 18, 2010

My Journal - Week 43 (18Jun10)

Pictures of progress!!!!

Since Hunter is eating all types and kinds of foods, today I figured I would try and give him some real fruit.  We had bought some strawberries and since I know that Hunter loves all the different types of Organic baby food fruits, I figured a real strawberry should be fun!  And also knowing Hunter now has a total of five teeth, it wouldn't or shouldn't be hard for him to try and bite this soft piece of fruit!

Here is a few photos of Hunter eating his fruit and loving it!

 [Wow!  What is this weird tasting thing?]

 [Well, this isn't bad at all!  In fact I think I like it!]

 [Hummm, What exactly is this thing I am eating?]

 [Ahhh.... You're teasing me!  I like this - what do you call it again?]

 [Yummy, Ummmm Good!  Do you want to have some?]

And one additional picture that was a must have to add in - that had absolutely nothing to do with eating food....

 [Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..... X2]
A rare moment caught on camera.  Grandma was trying to get Hunter to sleep for his afternoon nap, but ended up falling asleep "with" him instead!  How cute is this?

Almost forgot to add the day's pictures of Hunter getting his hair cut professionally (for Uncle Andrew's wedding coming up on the 10th July 2010).  The hair stylist couldn't stop gushing over how happy, patient and good Hunter was with getting his hair cut and clipped!  Here are the four pictures I took with my cellular phone.  I just couldn't resist!  What a handsome baby boy!

[Hummm, this usually happens at home....]

[Did I mention how good I look in this shiny blue car?]

[OMG!  This thing's got a huge steering wheel... can I drive it home?]

[I want that steering wheel!]
  [Why can't I reach it?  Never mind, I look good don't I!?]

Well, that was worth the wait for some new pictures!  And of course, now that his hair is done, he looks OH SO SWEET again!  No more stray curly-q hairs (as the hair stylist says!)!!
Hope you enjoyed these!  Always more to come!


  1. Sandi I just wanted to say that Hunter is absolutely adorable! Oh, and since I read your about me info I just thought I would note that I'm a police dispatcher. :D

  2. Loving Hunter and your tattoos. My daughter is a tattoo artist. Check out my blog,

  3. Ok now those pics are just too cute! Just want to take him home, love his smiles!


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