Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
Author: Sandi Graham-McWade, Copyright

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Tuesday, November 30, 2010

My Journal - Week 67 (30Nov10)

Independent Walker Walking For Hunter!!!

So, just for fun we cleaned up Hunter's play area, taking out unnecessary things which gives him much more space to play and walk!!  We put down more rubberized floor (this time using the alphabet/number cut-outs that I bought sometime ago) so that Hunter had a larger area to use his walker.  It has been a bit worrisome allowing Hunter to use his walker on the tiled floor since the walker can literally get away or move faster then I or Hunter would want it to so it was a whole lot easier for me to let Hunter use his walker on the rubberized play floor and also let him experiment with walking on his own.  If he fell, he would be mostly protected by the padded floor and it also prevents the wheels from sliding along the floor or slipping even when locked or reduced rotation.

What an experiment!  I still blame myself for Hunter not walking earlier because now seeing what I am only proves to me further that Hunter was willing to do this and if only given the chance to try it before, he likely would have excelled.  I guess I am the one with delays, not my Hunter!!  It's pretty obvious that when he first started standing at furniture I should have gotten someone to help me see if Hunter could try his walker since my back prevents me from bending over/down to do it with him.

Here are three short but very sweet videos of Hunter's latest progress... walking with his walker, BY HIMSELF!


Oh, and just for fun, since Hunter has been attempting to sing along with me lately to his favourite song since birth, I thought I would add that into the last video for you all to enjoy!

PRODUCT REVIEW & NOTE:  The alphabet/numerical padded foam floor can be purchased from Toy's R Us.  The letters and numbers can come up from the floor and is very colourful for child interest and teaching.  The consistency of the floor is the same as the larger full colour foam padded squares.  I would however note that we purposely did not use that floor first (before the larger full squares) because the centre pieces in some of the letters/numbers such as the number six and eight have smaller circular parts that might be able to fit into a mouth of a curious baby.  For that reason when we first introduced Hunter to the alphabet/number floor I removed all of the smaller parts for his safety.  Even at this age, I still completely supervise Hunter when on this floor because he is able to pull up the numbers and letters from the floor to play with.  But I completely recommend the foam padded flooring for fun and safety for infants, especially when learning to sit, crawl and/or walk!  It has helped keep bruises to a minimum during these times!

1 comment:

  1. I am so impressed with his ability to imitate sounds of ba ba. His language skills are developing well. The walking shows his muscles are getting stronger too. Soon you'll be putting up gates to limit him and keep him safe!!


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