Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

My Journal - Week 66 (23Nov10)

More fantastic YMCA Play to Learn group photos!

Without harping too much about how well my play group is going, I wanted just to put out a quick post about what a wonderful Play Day we had because two dads were there to enjoy the group as well!

My YMCA Play to Learn for Kids with Special Needs is truly not only for Mom's and their kids but also for the entire family as can be seen here in these wonderful photos that Penny took for us all!  John was able to accompany Hunter and I to our Play Day this Tuesday, and Darwin (Penny's husband) is a regular who keeps his son Vaun motivated every step of the way!  Play to Learn is open to all family members and caregivers!  So please make sure if anyone wants to join that they know they are always welcome to do so!

Also a special note for those interested, the Durham Down syndrome Association is putting on their annual kids Christmas party for families of children with Down syndrome.  It will be held at the Whitby Rotary Park - Whitby Marina.  For each child attending, parents are asked to purchase a gift under $10.00 for Santa to give to the child.  The event is scheduled for 2-4pm on this Saturday 27th November 2010.   Any questions can be directed to the Durham Down syndrome Association at www.ddsa.ca  Check the website for more specific details.

And now, here are the recent Play group photos:

Ohhh, I remember this place!  Lots of toys that I like and my Daddy is here with us!

My friend Taylor-Rose and I are playing again!  This time I am telling her about her shoe!

Taylor-Rose & I are having a great chat!  Every week we talk & talk but no one else understands us!

Taylor-Rose is laughing at my funny jokes!  My mommy says I am a funny little boy!

Last time she tried to pull me, so this time I am pulling her to come back!

These are my other friends Vaun, Hayden and Isabella!  We are all learning!

Vaun and Hayden are sharing some eggs!  They are working hard together!

See what my Mommy is holding?  That is the car I love to push around the whole room!

Vaun and Hayden are still working hard and Isabella is enjoying the music toys!

Vaun is working with his Daddy Darwin the other kids are watching Taylor-Rose's Mom!

Daddy is laughing at me and Taylor-Rose playing ball!  We are good at it though!

My EI Jenn is helping us all to learn!  I am going after the ball for us to play with!

Now that I got it back, I will play ball with Taylor-Rose again!  Everyone is cheering!

I am not really sure what my Mommy is showing my Daddy, but it's funny!

This is Vaun and his Mommy Penny!

Here I am playing with the beads!  Would you believe I have one at home that I don't play with?

Don't tell my Mommy that I actually like it.  She will want me to play with ours at home!

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