Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Friday, October 22, 2010

My Journal - Week 61 (22Oct10)

Parents who Blog... can make a difference too!

I always knew that Blogging was something that anyone could do, and for absolutely any reason whatsoever.  What I never knew was that I would be one of those people who would be part of it too.  After I had Hunter, it was very important to me to make sure that people out there had choices, that they could learn and get the real every day information that was so lacking in the medical industry.  A personal perspective regarding the journey of having or caring for a child with Down syndrome and or Special Needs.  It became my strong focus and somewhat of a mission to show the world exactly the same information I wished I was able to find or learn without half as much trouble.  It was also for Hunter.  I knew after I had Hunter that he deserved a voice.  One that would explain to the world what most everyone else who had not been privy to our journey would want to know and should know.
And, "Welcome To Our House" was born.

Today I received an email - one that I was not expecting.  That is the great thing about surprises.  I was told that I had received an award for 2010, for Blogging.  I had received the accolade for being one of the top 30 Special Needs Blogs Awards.

Here is what the beginning of the email said:

Dear Sandi,

Congratulations! Sarah here, and your blog, Welcome to Our House, was
determined to be one of the best blogs to exude overall brilliance.  And so,
it has received our 2010 Top 30 Parenting Special Needs Blogs Award
presented by Medical Billing and Coding!

I had absolutely no idea that I would ever receive such a great award let alone my followers nominate me for it.  I am very proud and I have posted the badge honourably on my blog.  Here is the site which lists the top 30 winners:

Here is the award that I am able to post on my blog:
Medical Billing
Medical Billing

I would like to say "Congratulations" to all the other winners and also to encourage everyone out there to blog.  It helps those who are out there wanting information and the reality of our lives that otherwise without blogging, they wouldn't be able to find.

Medical Billing
Medical Billing


  1. Warmest congrats to my sweet daughter-in-law---way to go hun, U GO GIRL!!! Keep that info coming and sharing with folks that need and so appreciate what you write.
    I am so very proud of you and love you more than I could ever tell you. Hugss to all of you..
    Always, mom xoxoxoxoxo

  2. Hi Sandi,
    Congrats on your receiving this award.
    You worked hard & have certainly enlightened me in this regard
    Keep up the good work

  3. Congrats Sandi (twice) - one on your expected new arrival and the other for your award.

    Continue the good work.


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