Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Thursday, October 21, 2010

My Journal - Week 61 (21Oct10)

Pregnancy and MTHFR....

I wanted to post a quick update for those of you who wanted to know what has been happening with the "Pregnancy" and my genetic mutation MTHFR variant C677T.

I was able to get an appointment with my family doctor on the Tuesday at noon and I was very happy to discover that my doctor had read the research I provided him with on the treatments for MTHFR.  I was given a beta blood test to determine how much hCG was in my system (proof of pregnancy) and also a prescription for 40mg Lovenox which is a subcutaneous injection blood thinner.

The current treatment for myself (a person with MTHFR C677T variant) is a 200% increase in Folic Acid (PregVit 5), Low Dose (Baby Asprin) 81mg, a 100mg B Complex Vitamin and a daily injection of Lovenox 40mg.

I am very happy to report that I have started the treatments and I am hopeful that it will allow this pregnancy to "stick".  I received the results of my beta blood test and the hCG number was 341 mIU/ML which is a fantastic number for 17 days past ovulation (DPO).  This number, (the beta hCG) should rise by doubling every 24-48 hours.  The actual number is not as important as the fact that the hCG should be doubling/rising.  But it is a good indicator for physicians to assess if further tests or evaluations need to be given.

I still have an appointment with the Special Pregnancy High Risk Clinic at Mount Sinai hospital in Toronto - which I am told is THE best place to be referred to when diagnosed with MTHFR.  The doctor I have been referred to is the TOP specialist in this field.  My original appointment (pre-pregnancy) was scheduled for 18 Jan 2011 (Can you believe that?  A very busy clinic indeed.) but has since been moved to November or after my first early dating ultrasound between the weeks of 8-10 weeks.  It's kind of crazy and backward to been seen after such a critical time, but these are their rules and protocols.  This is why I am grateful and also thankful that my doctor has stepped up to provide me with the necessary medications in the interim.

Now, giving oneself a needle in the abdomen is not really a pleasant thing to think about, but in actuality it doesn't hurt.  For me, it's the thought of preserving this baby and getting the right medications.  It may sound kind of crazy, but I am only too happy to do it.  I have since had to update my Medical Alert to include this new medication because it is a blood thinner.  It's just one more thing that "has to be done" in order to achieve a good pregnancy.  On another note, I am happy to also report that the ONLY symptom I seem to be feeling at the moment is fatigue.  Just like my 1st pregnancy with Hunter!  How terrific is that?!

We are hopeful and wishing success this time around.  Please wish us luck!

1 comment:

  1. Awesome, awesome, awesome news! Take it easy {as much as is possible...which is never enough! LOL}! :)


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