Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
Author: Sandi Graham-McWade, Copyright

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Monday, August 15, 2011

My Journal - Week 103 (15Aug11)


After two years, my little baby is now a full fledged official "toddler"!  Today is Hunter's 2nd birthday.  Yesterday (Sunday), we had his birthday party and party it was!  Unfortunately, things never seem to go as planned, schedules didn't get followed and but we had a fun great day nonetheless.  The activities I planned got left behind, and so some other day - play date - we will finish what I had set out to do on his special day.
I do blame myself for not being as organized as I usually am for such a special event.  While I had literally bought and planned the parties activities over a month ago, I recently undertook one of the biggest ventures of my life this past week.  I invested and bought a business.  After today, one of the most critical conditions was met and it seems that the "offer to purchase a business" will be nearly complete and I will "Own" the business I purchased.  The business I bought is an upscale four year existing tattoo studio.  While many may lift an eyebrow or be quite surprised, this enterprise is an extremely profitable one so long as you know the industry.  Being a police officer, I have the ability to keep this business a clean, family oriented store/studio, with rules and regulations adhered to.  Running a tattoo business isn't just about putting "ink" under someone's skin.  It's about proving a key service, ear piercing, body art and more.
Officially (at this moment) I do not tattoo, and I am learning that side of the business but I do have a entrepreneurial mind and have run several of my own businesses.  So, I will be able to put those same skills into ensuring that this store exceeds and succeeds. 

Anyway, as time moves along and the 1st of September approaches (the actual possession date) I am sure I will have much more to comment on.  For now, I have several photos and video to post of Hunter's birthday.

It's my birthday party!

This is one of my best buddies - Vaun.

This is one of my other buddies - Taylor Rose

I'm entertaining my friends!

Here are Vaun & Taylor Rose playing together!

My friends are all enjoying my play room!

My sister Hayleigh is enjoying a bottle with Uncle Oliver!

We are all in my new ball castle!!  Wow... incredible fun!

I didn't even know Mommy bought this fun thing for me!

Vaun is sliding down with his Daddy's help!

Taylor Rose is brave!  She climbs up by herself and slides down alone too!

Her little sister Brooke is just learning to slide!

Here I go!  I am such a big boy, this is my first time by myself!!

Here's my cake!  It's actually a cupcake cake!!!

I have a plastic fork to "cut" my cake!!

See, here I go... hands and fork in to the cake!!  Ewwww!

And my final photo before opening gifts, me eating my cake with my family!

Mommy and I read all my cards and I open my gifts!!

A scribble pad and paper from Aunty Melissa


Crayola Beginnings...

Washable (good thing) Crayola Markers... (for my Crayola Beginnings)

Peter Rabbit... (for me - Hunter Bunny)

Nursery Rhyme Picture Book...

And Peter Rabbit Book...

MORE Crayola Markers (different colours) and notice how I sign MORE!!

Animal Magnets from Aunty Jane... Humm - I love animals...

Sea Creatures Colouring Book...

Disney Cars Back Pack - for when I am ready to go to school, or carry my toys around!

Cool Rocker Clothing from Haedyn & Isabella!

Chuck Trucks Tonka Set!!

Something called Play-doh... I don't know what it is yet....

And something Mommy called Mr. Potato Head!?  She said it's an old toy?!

Melissa & Doug Sound Puzzle!

Bowling Pins?!  Again, someone said that Mommy knows all about Bowling!!

Nerf Dart Tag - Mommy said Daddy will play with it more!  Something about Cops & Robbers!
Thank you all so much for helping us to celebrate Hunter's very special day.  Being two is going to open a whole other world of excitement and challenge.  We can't wait to embrace it, every step of the way.

1 comment:

  1. Now you are venturing into the same business as my daughter. She opened her shop in February. Hope you can send each other clients. She is in the heart of the city at Dovercourt and Bloor. Where will your shop be? Heidi


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