Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Sunday, July 31, 2011

My Journal - Week 101 (31Jul11)


I am beginning to think we will be making Cayuga (Toronto Motor Sports) a yearly event since it is one of Daddy's passions which suddenly my children have inherited!  I love watching cars go fast, but believe you me - I have had a much different opinion of car racing over the last 14 years of policing.  I guess I am just used to being in another vehicle going just as fast, only I am chasing them down instead!

This time around, Hunter wasn't as cheerful to sit tight and watch the event.  He would have rather (had he been allowed) to roam freely at the bottom of the stands, run up and down and stop every so often to cheer wildly at a pair of cars racing down the 1/4 mile track.  Hayleigh on the other hand, took over the quiet child routine, sleeping through every single race!

We had a great time - even though this year the tickets were not free (as last year John won them).  This year was TV shows "Pinks All Out" iconic host, Rich Christensen's last year doing "Arm Drop" racing and so for Daddy (and a few Hundred other people present there), this was a milestone event. 

It took us a crazy 4 hours to get to Cayuga on a Saturday afternoon and a silly 55 minutes to get home Sunday.  There was a fatality on the Burlington Bridge however, hindering our timely arrival to the race event.  Either way, we arrived and had a fantastic time watching the races.  We then made our way into Hamilton to the Sharaton Hotel and room (which was also wonderfully large), relaxed with dinner and fell soundly asleep... EXCEPT for miss Hayleigh (who's internal clock is all wrong) who kept me up all night (not crying) to be fed and entertained.  Oh well.

Enjoy the photos - we certainly had a super time.

Daddy... I think I remember this place!  It looks familiar....

Wait, Wait a minute... I know!  It's the car racing place... Right??!

Yay!  I was right!  Car racing!!  We got here during intermission after Qualifying!

Here we are at intermission!  A family photo at Cayuga!

Just behind the grandstand, a field for me to play in during intermission!

Mommy and I are in the sun, covered in sunblock & waiting for intermission to end!

Ohhhh a doggy!  What a nice Sheppard!  Hey Doggy - do you like the races too?!

A beautifully restored vehicle just raced and lost in Qualifying round #3.

Believe it or not, here is your 2011 Arm Drop winner... a GSXR1300 (Suzuki, like my old bike)

My little sister Hayleigh is sound asleep... even with all the noise!

What a beautiful car.  Just like Eleanor, this is "HELEANOR"!!  ALL done up.

It was so warm out, Daddy got me an ice-cream cone!  Yummy!

Another family photo at Cayuga's 2011 Arm Drop Racing Live.

I loved watching the races today!

This is our Hotel Room, mommy even got a crib for me.  Humm, I'm not too sure about it...

A great end to a great day!  Happy Anniversary Mommy & Daddy!!
Yes, our weekend get away was for our wedding anniversary.  Though it was actually on the Monday past (25th July), it was a great reason to get the family away for the weekend and enjoy a bit of racing too!

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