Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
Author: Sandi Graham-McWade, Copyright

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Tuesday, April 19, 2011

My Journal - Week 86 (19Apr11)

Swimming continued; Walking continued & now 
- Self Standing!

A lot has been going on these past few weeks and while it's not a great excuse for not posting, one thing is for sure, I have a lot of material!

First things first, lesson three of Hunter's swimming!  Without getting overly wordy, Hunter has made wonderful little progressions that without writing about wouldn't probably be that evident to everyone else.  He's now able to put his face in the water (his head goes more than half way under water), float by only being held by the back of his head with one hand, and stand up to "jump" into the pool.  (Not really jumping, but being brought into the water from a standing position as opposed to from a seated position).  Lesson four will be this Thursday.

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Last weekend (16th April) we went to the Toronto Baby Show sponsored by the Babies R Us and we were lucky to get (pay for) a photo shoot of Hunter with two live bunnies!  Here are a few of the precious photos.

Cool, I have an Easter Egg!

Ah ha!  Bunny's make Easter Eggs!

Mommy, can I have this Easter Egg?

Hey, what do you mean they don't lay Easter Eggs?

Are you sure?  It seems that there are a ton of Easter Eggs here and two bunnies?!

Now I am confused.  I have eggs and these two bunnies.

Mommy, can I have some of these Easter Eggs?

Yay!  My Mommy said I can have some Eggs!

Maybe if I am good they will get me a Bunny too!?!

Humm, I wonder how good I have to be to get a Bunny for Easter....

Maybe they will just give me one since they call me Hunter Bunny?!

And I have been soooo good, I think they will want to get me a Bunny!

Onto Hunter's latest milestone.  SELF-STANDING:  Just today, (and I have been saying that this would be happening within the next few days) Hunter surprised me with his newest effort.  I was talking to a few people during the day, exclaiming how well Hunter has been walking, and running.  The only thing left to do was to get Hunter to stand up on his own without the use of any furniture.  I had been noticing that (like in all Hunter's past actions of learning) Hunter can do things that we want him to do, but convincing him that he can do them is another story.  This latest confidence issue pertained to his self standing.  I had noticed that when Hunter holds something in his hands, he forgets that he "CAN'T" do something.  And today was no different.  He concentrates so much on whatever he's holding (aka the distraction) that he does things like walk, talk or stand up by himself.  I had just mentioned to my own mother earlier in the day that all it would take for Hunter to get up without using anything furniture or walls would be for him to be distracted and be holding something else.  Sure enough, after his shower (yes, Hunter wants to take showers now, not baths...) he walked out to our bedroom, sat down in front of my laundry bin (which happened to be full of clean clothes and had a Bounce dryer sheet inside the clothes pile) pull out the dryer sheet with his left hand and used his right hand to push up from the ground to stand up.  I knew it was only a matter of "distraction" time!  I was so proud of him, clapping and telling him he did a great job, and I am sure Hunter was so confused about what I was praising him about, that likely he's made an association to pulling my dryer sheets out of my laundry bin!  There is something to be said after all about leaving your clean laundry in bins and not putting them away!  Now, it would appear that all we need is to remove all other access to cheating to stand up.  Ya, right.  Funny though, in order for Hunter to master his skills, we need to take away anything that makes it easier to do it the easier way.  This time around though, it would be extremely difficult if not impossible to remove walls, furniture and everything else he uses to get himself to a standing position.  So, I am gathering it might take him longer to realize and remember he can do it on his own.  Never the less, he did it and I saw it!  It's so rewarding.

As always, more to come!

PS -  I have created a brand new Play to Learn & Parent Support Group YMCA flyer for 2011.  See here for link to flyer:  https://acrobat.com/#d=igeBlRPgpWU1XmRPQnZ9fA

Or see actual flyer here:


  1. I feel like I’m constantly looking for interesting things to read about a variety of subjects, but I manage to include your blog among my reads every day because you have honest entries that I look forward to. Here’s hoping there’s a lot more great material coming!
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  2. Oh Sandi! I love.Love.LOVE Hunter's Easter pictures!!! I couldn't help but giggle at them. I am so back about taking the kids for pictures but just looking at all his expressions makes me want to do it! :)

  3. Very nice he is doing very well. One of these days I would like to accompany you to Hunter's swimming lessons (if it is permitted that is...)


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