Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
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Saturday, December 25, 2010

My Journal - Week 70 (25Dec10)


As promised, here are the highlights from Christmas day and evening!

First I wanted to post a few photos from just before Christmas that we finally took in front of our tree.

A family photo just before Christmas

Daddy & Hunter

Mommy & Hunter

Our day started out with opening Christmas presents and stockings.  Hunter had a great time opening and seeing all the wonderful gifts from his entire family and friends.

Look at this!  What do you think it is??

Wow, opening gifts is a hard task but is so much fun!

Thank goodness my Mommy helps me with opening them!

Ah-ha!  A V-Tech Sit to Stand learning train!  Just what I always wanted!!

I think opening presents was Hunter's favourite part!  He looked so happy and was excited for the day!  After a full day of opening presents, lunch and getting ready for the evening, we headed out to our cousins house for Christmas dinner.  Here are some of the wonderful photos taken from the evening.

A wonderful feast for Christmas

Mommy is holding me while getting us dinner so I can help choose!

And now I got to eat most of Mommy's food!!

I know I look like I am happy but I was very tearful here when we first arrived.

Now I am very happy (for real).  There are more presents for me?!

WOW!  A Xylophone!  I am going to have so much fun!

This Mickey Mouse shirt says, "I may be small, but I'm the boss"!   So true!

Aunty Jane got me a remote controlled Police Car!  Just like my Mommy!

Here I am trying out my new xylophone!

My Aunty Mise got me this amazing learning toy!  It shows me the alphabet!

I wonder what is inside this??

What a cool book!  This is a teddy bear!  Here are his eyes and nose!

And a Mickey Mouse to go with my new shirt!

Another book!  I love books!  How did they know??!

I love this Police Car!  It's what my Mommy used to drive!

What do you mean there is a reindeer in the house??!

Ohhhhh!   I am the reindeer!!  Now I get it!

It's fun to be a reindeer!  Do you want to be one to?

Clap for me Grandpa!  Don't I look great?!
What a wonderful day and evening we all had.  I thank my whole family for this wonderful time of the year and making it so very special for Hunter.   Hunter has a bunch of new toys and clothes that he absolutely loves and cant wait to use them all.  I will be sure to post reviews about the items he received and how well they help Hunter learn and play.

And just to add something very interesting, I got an unexpected present myself for Christmas!  While relaxing during our desert after Christmas dinner we all laughing and having fun playing Monopoly Deal (a family card game).  Hunter had fallen asleep on my chest facing me.  I suddenly felt as though he had kicked me in the lower abdomen.  I wondered how how he could have kicked me when his legs were wrapped around my waist and commented about it to everyone at the table.  I laid Hunter down to sleep and within the next five minutes I felt three more distinct kicks!  I was feeling my very first "kicks" of this pregnancy!  Without going into too much detail, during my first pregnancy I didn't feel kicks until after 18 weeks because of the location of the placenta.  So, to feel them so definitively at nearly 15 weeks is such a wonderful treat.

I hope everyone enjoyed this holiday season and was able to spend it with those they love and care about. 

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