Welcome to Our House - The Analogy ©

Having a baby is special. For some, it’s a lifelong dream, for others, a wonderful surprise. Either way, many of us have thought about taking this journey and whether it’s planned or a pleasant surprise, we all have preconceived ideas about what our child will look and be like. But what if it isn’t what we planned or expected? This is a short story I have written for parents who have or are expecting an exceptionally special child.

Welcome to our House – An analogy

After many months of dreaming, you finally decide it’s time. You are going to build that perfect house of your dreams. You have saved and saved, and now it’s time to put your plan into action. You find a wonderful, perfect piece of land in the city. It’s exactly what you are looking for – because it’s the plan that everyone talks about. You envision the all brick house sitting on luscious green grass, surrounded by a white picket fence. Inside is a marble foyer leading into a family room with beautiful oak hardwood floors. Granite lines the kitchen counter tops and there is an island sink in the middle. Upstairs has four perfect bedrooms and the master bedroom has an ensuite bathroom and an enormous walk-in closet, of course. It’s truly a dream come true, and it’s only a matter of time. You purchase the land and think to yourself, in nine short months, you will have it all.

But suddenly your agent calls to tell you, the land is not properly zoned, and the city has not approved it for building your perfect home. They have instead, given you land in the country, where an old country home sits. You are absolutely devastated, your dreams vanishing right before your eyes. You know you can’t back out now, you need a place to live, and despite it not being what you wanted, you know that somehow you will manage and that you can continue on.

You tell everyone what has happened, and everyone is disappointed, some even offering their condolences. You know that everyone else has a nice city home, and that was what you had planned, but you have to come to terms with the fact that you must learn to live in the country.

You go to see the property every month until closing and something funny happens. You start to fall in love with the place. The air is fresh, it’s peaceful and serene. There’s a pond on the land, and the house, though not a new all brick home, is quaint, and has lots of hidden potential. You soon realize it’s not a awful place, it’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than the city, less noisy and flamboyant, but it’s beautiful none the less. And in the process, you soon realize you may even get to meet some new and wonderful neighbours.

Its closing day and you suddenly find yourself full of anticipation, but you are still a little worried. After all, it isn’t what you had originally hoped for, and the house may need some repairs. But you are determined to accept it, and tackle everything one step at a time. You open the front door, and suddenly you are thrilled with what you see. The house is lovely, and has lots of character. The rooms are smaller but it’s decorated with beautiful attention and detail. The kitchen has marble instead of granite, and the bathroom has a soaker tub instead of a Jacuzzi. There isn’t a walk-in closet in sight, but the rooms all come with an indescribable view. Somehow, you just know that it was always meant to be and that this is now home.

This is my analogy of what it will be like for people who discover that they will be caring for a baby with Down syndrome. For us, it is not a terrible place to be, it is a journey full of surprises, milestones and discovery like any other child. And as the story suggests, sometimes it’s only a matter of ‘point of view’, and surprisingly, once you have been there, you don’t want to be anywhere else. The journey, like all others doesn’t come without some bumps in the road, but once you find your way, it’s all about the place you discovered, in most cases - quite by random chance
Author: Sandi Graham-McWade, Copyright
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Saturday, April 14, 2012

My Journal - Week 137 (14Apr12)

A Spring Swing or two...


While the winter darkness is shedding away and the earliest signs of spring is apparently upon us there is something to be said about being able to take the kids out of the house.  With nicer weather finally here (of course not yet glorious summer) it was good timing for John and I to take Hunter & Hayleigh for their first real visit (of 2012), to the small community parkette at the top of our street.  Closer to home than our larger community family park yet not as conveniently close as our backyard - which for the record houses the jungle gym swing set I bought a year ago, was a good negotiation.

Here are more than one or two photos that I took...  I couldn't choose which ones to post so of the 40 or more, I chose 18 of them.

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Don't worry Hayleigh - Swinging is fun!

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I think she's hanging on for dear life...

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Mommy, look at me!  I'm waving!


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We are swinging together.  Hey - there is a rock down there...

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Haha, Hayleigh sees the rock too!

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Just two babes, having a great swing.

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I think Hayleigh loves it!

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Yes, yes she does.

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Just Hayleigh loving the swing.

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Hey Hayleigh!  You have to hold on!

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Mommy had Daddy get into the fun.

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I wonder how long we are going to swing?

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Daddy loves to push us on the swing.

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Mommy said that Doctor Marks says fresh air is good for our colds, but my nose is red!

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It looks dark out, but it really isn't.  Blame Mommy's camera setting.  (The street lights would have been on.)

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Ahhh, that's better.  Umm, I see the rock that Hayleigh was looking at on the ground!

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Daddy is squeezing us close together!  A work out for Daddy but fun for Hayleigh and I!

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Well, the street lights are now on and Mommy said it was time to go home.

Their expressions are priceless.  In fact, Hayleigh's very first look was tentative and worrisome.  Until Daddy pushed her.  It was pure bliss and excitement from then on!  I guess, there's nothing like swinging free.


And a photo that I quickly took while my MIL was over last week.

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All in our Pajammies and having a great time with Nanna McWade - That's my Daddy's Mommy.

On the Durham Down syndrome Association front, there are lots of events in the works.  Upcoming will be a Porsche-Abilities Race Track day - 8th June 2012.  Open to all families with kids who have special needs, this event will be something unlike any event you have ever been to for FREE!!  (We are asking for a donation of a non-perishable food item only).  How would you like to be a passenger in a Porsche racing car on the Mosport Raceway Track?  As me more about it if you are interested in going and being a participant.  Spaces are limited, so email me soon.  More events also on the agenda such as Summer Literacy programs and our Annual Summer Picnic - just to name a few.

Being a member of the DDSA entitles your family to participate and receive discounts and often other various free services.

Let me know how I can help you to receive the many benefits offered to you Durham's local Down syndrome Association!


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